Legion of Mary Blog

Shortly after meeting the woman who is now my wife, I talked with the man who ended up the best man and a priest to get advice.  As the advice was good and my wife and I are now married, here is a write-up of my notes from that meeting.

-the purpose of dating is to find a life-time companion

-Can’t rely on senses; should rely on soul

-All human longing is longing for God

- Simply resist sensation and senses to reach the other person.  Beauty accessable to the senses is dangerious.

[Drawing was then made of a man, with three parts.  The head, called Logei; the heart, called Love; and the mid-section, called Passion.]

We must love from the heart; not just think someone is a good match from the mind; and not just feel a physical desire for the person.

-A person consumed by passion is not capable of love

-What does she think of life, culture, and love?

-Christian affection: you won’t  don’t fall into passion, when you know her on the level of the heart.

[Drawing of a girl’s mind and a guy’s mind. The guy’s mind is clear, organized, ordered; the girl’s is a mess]

Three things for marriage: Financial stability, psycological maturity, and spiritual

-Safe S– is neither safte nor is it s–; it is really mutual ma———-

-He who loves, wants to know.  Loning in the heart is for a person.  Theology, culture, music, and art are expressions of loving for God.

- Every object in nature is a personal gift from God.  God made nature personally for me.  Creation isn’t an object, but a gift.  The beauty of what God has given wants to come to God — just as man suffers wanting to know woman.

Woman is a gift from God to man.

-God is present in woman and woman is a reflection of self and a revelation of self.  In seeing woman, man sees himself.

Celibacy is the key to keeping a marriage.  There are 3 vocations: Layiety, Consecrated life, clergy.

-Secual aspect of a person involves the whole person.

-It may appear that good is losing, but the truth is that good is winning.